Do Women Have to Wait for His Call?

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Or is this rule totally antiquate? Books like “The Rules” or “He’s Just Not that into You” preach waiting for his call as one of their top rules. Do not contact him because he doesn’t like you if he’s not contacting you first.

As I start dating again, I question if that’s just true for younger folks. I figure, why wouldn’t a man want to know your thinking of them?  I don’t mean texting or calling every hour on the hour. But what’s wrong with a “hello” text in the morning if you’re feeling it. And when is a slow down in communication just about life. Especially after you’ve been married once and have a child(ren).

I’m not sure I believe in this as a hard and fast rule as to how someone feels about you. But maybe I’m crazy. Or maybe it’s because technology has taken the place of what used to be normal communication.

What are the rules these days?

Wanna Borrow My Big Girl Panties?

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A few months back, I went on a date with D. We’d met on one of those dating sites I subscribe to. The conversation flowed well. There was none of that awkward what do I say next moments. 

It wasn’t long before he’d ask me out. He told me to leave all the plans to him. So I did. We met for coffee and chatted while sharing photos of our children.  It was going so well. As we drained our cardboard cups full of Soy Chai Latte, we decided we didn’t want it to end. So I said, “What’s next?”

He didn’t have a suggestion so I suggested we hop in my car and sit at the marina and watch The City across the bay. He agreed.

The conversation continued and we begin making out it my backseat like two teenagers with nowhere else to go.

I left feeling enchanted and eager to share my favorite things with him, especially a Islanders hockey game. We’d even planned to have Italian for dinner the next time we went out.

With hope in my heart for the first time in a long time, I checked in with him daily. The conversation begun sounding friendly but formal. My friend tried to comfort me. Saying I was probably expecting too much.  But my head told me something was up.

I waited for him to get home from his daily evening Starbucks run to send him a quick text to ask him how he was. His response, “Good Bella. How is your night at work?”

Yea, you guessed it, I don’t work at night.  My response, “If you mean mommy duty, it’s going fine. ”

That was it, never another text.

Here’s the thing gentleman, the media would have you believe women are so fragile you can’t just say “I am just not into you”.  I have no problem with these words and I am not going to ask you to come back. Because in fact, I don’t want be your second thought choice.

So pull up your big girl panties and tell us. Stop worrying about our reaction because not being straight hurts worse.

Oh, and if you say you’re going to plan a date, actually have a plan.

Contouring Sorcery

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This goes out to all you people going to bed with a ten, And waking up with a two. Ha, not me. -Katy Perry

“This contouring has to stop.  You have no idea who what you’re going to get in the morning.” Mack said sporting disbelief on his face while staring at the monitor. 

Chuckling, I say “Isn’t that the same way makeup has always been?”

“Nah, man, this is some weird magic. They don’t even look like themselves. ” He said. 

Contouring is the latest makeup trend in which you can transform your look by creating “shadows” to reshape your face. 

Mack and I spent 10 minutes dissecting the before and after of men and women alike. We were both horrified and fascinated.  How could makeup so drastically modify someone’s appearance?

Mack insisted the practice had to be outlawed. I chuckled at his naive outrage, but I admit he does have a point.  After all, one man won a lawsuit because his wife gave him ugly kids.

Is there something wrong with trying to look fabulous by contouring your face? Is it sorcery or just a part of the neverending quest for the physical beauty?

Resolutions? No thanks!

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“New Year! New You!” I cringe every time that weight loss commercial comes on.  Does the New Year’s Baby have a magic wand I am unaware of?  If that little cherub thinks it’s going to sprinkle that mass hypnosis on me, he’s got another thing coming. 

  1. We are almost always doomed to fail on New Year’s resolutions.  I’m no defeatist but falling for the hype seems pointless
  2. There are better ways to engage in better habits. You’re going to be more successful at changing your habits if you start right away rather than putting a date on it.  
  3. You get to be that cool anti-resolution chick. So when someone asks what your resolution is. You can say, “Resolutions, how passé.”

Resolutions are great. They even have value in  many folks lives. But all resolutions should come from a desire to transform rather than a date on the calendar.